Indonesian for Couples: Romantic Phrases and Dating Culture
The Romantic Progression
- Saya suka kamu -- I like you
- Saya sayang kamu -- I care about you / I'm fond of you
- Saya cinta kamu -- I love you
"Sayang" is also a term of endearment -- like "darling."
Terms of Endearment
- Sayang -- Darling
- Cantik -- Beautiful (for women)
- Ganteng -- Handsome (for men)
Useful Phrases
- Saya rindu kamu -- I miss you
- Kamu mau jadi pacar saya? -- Will you be my boyfriend/girlfriend?
- Selamat malam, mimpi indah -- Good night, sweet dreams
Dating Culture
Family Is Involved
When things get serious, you'll meet parents early. Their restu (blessing) matters enormously.
The Marriage Question
"Kapan menikah?" (When will you marry?) will come up. Frequently. From everyone.
Religion Matters
Indonesia requires married couples to share the same religion on their marriage certificate.
Learning for Your Partner
Greeting their parents with "Selamat siang, Bu, Pak" instead of "Hi" signals respect and commitment.
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